tips for the begginer
Question
Hi how are you. I'm a really sexual person. To me sex is a beautiful way to express our love. I have meant this guy and he wants to wait. Only thing is I'm attracted to him so its hard. He's special so I do want to do this for and with him. How do I avoid temptation? Any really good methods I can use.
Answer
Hello there,
Trust you are doing fine. Coming to your questions,
Q: How does one avoid temptation?
A: The best method to avoid succumbing to temptation is to realize the benefits of being celibate and keep one's mind, body and psyche busy with constructive activity. Make a resolve to stay celibate for a certain period of time and achieve this target at all costs backed by spiritual activity. On reaching this target, extend this period to a few more days successively and repeat the process with longer and longer periods of celibacy. Once a few months of absolute celibacy have been practiced, one gradually starts to experience the beneficial results of being celibate. This will create an urge within to stay longer in the celibate mode and with constant efforts, success will eventually dawn.
True love between two people is independent of physical or sexual interaction. It flowers and blossoms immaterial of sexual contact and in fact can be experienced to the fullest extent only in a relationship that is beyond sex. If 'Love' between two people is dependent on the sexual relationship they have, it is not true love but an extension of lust and carnal desire. The purpose of the sexual act is procreation and not merry making. The reproductive fluids of man and woman are intended to create life and are not to be wasted. One will gradually get first hand conviction on this fact as he progresses in true celibacy.
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God bless and have a nice day
Dhananjay :-)