Marriage and non ejaculatory relations.
Question
hi dhananjay,
This query is from the previous posts which i was reading earlier this day.
1.in one of your posts you said that before marriage we should maintain celibacy and after marriage we should perform the act only for progency and if the partner wants then we should perform non ejaculatory sex in the initial years for the bond between couple, so my doubt is if the partner performs non ejaculatory sex then after the act the semen in ejaculatory mode will escape as it has no outlet and this is equal to tantrik sex (if i am wrong correct me and voluntarily stopping the ejaculation might cause health problems.) so in this way he is losing his prana while engaging in the whole act and he is refraining from ejaculation and this results in wet dream.
so is it better to use the above method or is it better to ejaculate in the act(through health point of view and in this method will he be having the craving for sense pleasure as in the first method).
2.in the other posts forms of semen you said that the sexual excitement takes every essence of body and produces semen. i am little confused at what point of time the body takes the essence and converts into semen.
1.if the sexual thoughts arises and we think of god, these thoughts alternate one after other (this is my case i don't know what to do).
2.if we unintentionally see women for some seconds or minutes(in magazines,newspapers,tv.
i want to confirm so that we can know the exact point where it happens so that we can be extra careful.
thanks,
ganapathi.
Answer
1. Non-ejaculatory sex can be applied only for a few months so as to overcome the slavery to the sensation of ejaculation in the process of attaining to complete Brahmacharya. Since there is the absence of voluntary ejaculation, and since there is no direct expulsion of veerya, the energy lost is somewhat lesser. However, wet-dreams do not reduce or stop. Only cent percent Brahmacharya with meditation leads to Urdhvaretas. When such a life of honesty is adhered to, everything falls in place.
2. Bindu (seed) under sexual excitement leads to formation of semen (which gets supercharged with Prana). The net sum of all essences in the body is Prana and it is Prana which is lost through loss of veerya.
3. The lesser the mind focuses on the sense of sexuality, the better are the chances of maintaining Brahmacharya. The more the time spent on sight/fantasy/imagination, the faster becomes the loss of Prana through formation of semen. The exact point cannot be determined as the whole process is seamless and quick. Such is the Leela of the Lord. The best option is to divert the mind at the very moment a sexual signal arises from within and reinforce Vairagya
ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)