Reeling from nocturnal loss
Question
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Things have been going beautifully after over 5 months of Brahmacharya and then an emission during a dream which has left me, after 3 days, feeling totally lacking in my earned vitality and optimism and with more than the usual load of challenges in my life. This loss was copious unlike two previous ones which had no discernable effect.
Could it be that relative low points in life are inevitable and occur as eddies which can engender a corresponding loss of the seed to presage the occasion, especially when you consider here that the loss wasnt a volitional action? I have lost even the motivation to meditate as it seems right now like useless drudgery.
Thank you for your time and service to provide needed understanding in an area of enormous ignorance.
Answer
The initial stages of Brahmacharya involve ups and downs, some of them quite severe in some people. The layers of Avidya (ignorance around the Atman leading to delusion) start getting stirred up whilst being unearthed. When layers representing past sexual karma and Samskaras (impressions) of much strength surface, there is a corresponding reaction which is also of a strong nature in the outward sense. This sometimes causes copious discharge through a wet dream.
This is sometimes the case with people in the initial stages of Brahmacharya. It appears as though everything is going well for months altogether and then there is a setback. The reason is the unearthing of a big chunk of strong sexual karma which was lying dormant and has now surfaced for evacuation. Some of these past impressions are so strong that they cannot be weeded out without a heavy emission in the dream state. The Yogi has no other choice but to persevere and commit himself with more concentration and sincerity in the practice. This is part of the path of Yoga, especially during the initial stages when karma of a very gross nature is being handled and dealt with. With honest efforts and perseverance, with God-devotion and meditation, such instances become less possible and one will eventually reach the stage of freedom from wet dreams.
As rightly understood by you, these highs and lows especially in the Brahmachari occur in the form of waves. The novice encounters exuberance and excitement further to reaching the crest of the wave where everything appears beautiful and perfect. He gets a feeling he has attained to a high level, only to be humbled when the next strong layer of past karma surfaces with such force that he loses his bearing and becomes unstable on shaky ground, reaching the trough of the wave. The right approach of course is to stay consistent and honest with undulating Yogic practice and be unfettered by success or failure with a level head.
The adept achieves this by reminding himself that he is not the doer but God is. When one has so conditioned the mind, it naturally follows that one does not beam with pride on achievement or wane with depression on failure, for we are only the mediums and not the doers. God alone is the doer. Our's is to try to the best of our effort and leave the rest to HIM. We are neither concerned with success nor with failure but only with honest effort. HE decides what is best and we comply with HIS decision.
Stay firm in regular Yogic practice that covers Asana, Bandha, Pranayama and meditation on a regular basis. It is important that efforts are not slackened at any cost. The path of Yoga is not an easy one, for it is strewn with obstacles at every turn and corner. So the undeserving and non-dedicated do not have access to the final state of beatitude, God has made the path very treacherous and tough. Only the really committed strive for progress against all odds and eventually reach the goal. Others give in to their lower tendencies and give up, unable to bear the strain and super-human effort that is required. With the right effort and devotion to God, you will tide over these tendencies and emerge victorious.
ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)