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Hello there,

Hope your are keeping well. Coming to the query,

Q: What is the effect of relationships with the opposite sex through the medium of internet or phone indulged in with a desirous attitude and the effect of masturbation?
A: An unmarried man wishing happiness, progress and development would do well in letting feelings of desire develop towards a member of the opposite sex under purview of the following conditions:

1. He is an eligible bachelor, socio-economically stable, looking at entering the institution of marriage.
2. He finds the lady a suitable candidate to become his life partner in all respects at the social, economic, religious, familial and personal levels and the lady concerned also has similar feelings.
3. Both have an honorable and genuine intention of leading a legally wedded married life with each other in a responsible and respectable manner.

If all these above conditions exist in trueness, the man and woman after agreeing to lead a married life based on the foundations of true love, trust, loyalty, understanding and consideration in sharing the joys and sorrows of life and promising to stay by one another through the ups and downs of life can talk to their parents/guardians and get prepared to take the step of entering into holy matrimony at the earliest. Mark the word earliest. It is unrecommended to maintain contact over a long period of time. Until their relationship is cemented by holy matrimony, they would do well to refrain from any form of verbal/physical/sexual overture amongst themselves that might corrupt the relationship and limit their interactions to the minimum.

If either the man or the woman finds one or any of the above mentioned pre-requisites absent, then the purpose becomes null and void and both loose the right to look at each other from the perspective of a future life partner. Under such conditions, the man should stay clear of the lady, giving up any form of constant contact or rapport (such as meeting in person, the internet, phone, letters etc...) that could fuel a corrupted relationship

The purpose behind the above rule is to ensure he prevents the development of further 'Karmic interactions' with the lady through his actions at the physical, mental, emotional and psychic levels. If the man and lady continue to maintain such contact, it will invariably flower into more lust/desire and finally lead to physical intimacy from where downfall accelerates. This point is very important and to be borne in mind all the time to ensure one stays clear of 'Karmic entanglements'. These entanglements not only grow from physical deeds but also from thoughts, words, emotions and the intensity of energy directed and received towards and from the other person.

All such interactions with the opposite sex if indulged in outside the purview of marriage will lead to downfall of both the man and the woman concerned sooner or later at the physical, mental, psychic, emotional and karmic levels for sure.

* The thought or look at the picture of a woman will induce desire.
* This desire will induce man to approach/talk to her.
* Familiarity with the woman will result in 'keertan' or praising her qualities with friends.
* Constant thought and contemplation on the woman leads to 'Guhya   bhaashan' or talking in secret with the woman on a one to one basis.
* The act of conversing will induce 'sparshan' or touch.
* The touch generated will lead to 'keli' or amorous sport.
* Indulgence in amorous play will lead to 'Adhyaavasaaya' or a strong desire for sexual enjoyment.
* This desire will lead to 'Kriya nivritti' or sexual intercourse.

- Section CCXIV, The MAHABHARATA, Shanti Parva, as told by Bhishma to King Yudhishtira.

These are called as the eight breaks in Brahmacharya. There is not a single soul on earth who is beyond the chronology of the above eight events from unfolding through contact with the opposite gender, except one who has realized the self. Each and every single being is prone to downfall if he indulges in any of the above starting with the desirous thought of a woman. For this reason, a man wishing to uplift himself and stay clear of downfall, sorrow and achieve progress in life should strictly avoid all the above eight breaks in Brahmacharya starting from looking at a woman with desire.

The very act of concentrated thinking upon a member of the opposite sex with desire outside marriage creates 'cosmic vibrations' which reach the other person indirectly. Such an act is unlawful and wrong and creates negative cosmic vibrations at the astral plane and around mans soul. Man loses much energy and finally his vital essence further to such contemplation. These negative vibrations which linger in the cosmos, interfere and inhibit with the free flow of universal consciousness which is the chief ingredient for success, peace of mind, energy, prosperity, future well being and what we term 'good luck' on the earthly plane and beyond.  With masturbation, man indulges in the act of wasting the divine and most powerful form of life/god energy into nothing. Every indulgence in activity that leads to fantasizing on the opposite sex will end with loss of semen and frustration. Also with every such act, man develops a strong 'negative karmic quotient' due to misuse and gross wastage of the divine reproductive element which in actuality is the manifestation of the 'Atman' or soul.

The man or woman who fool themselves thinking they can get away with merely looking/talking or spending time with the opposite sex will without doubt fall into the clutches of sexual gratification ultimately. Failure to get sexual gratification will lead to frustration, perversion, masturbation and other acts which further lead to destruction of one's life energy, vitality and progress. To sum up, man creates enormous amounts of negative karma, around his soul. Any of the acts mentioned above, immaterial of whether they lead to unlawful sexual intercourse or not, drain man of his vitality, energy, greatness and true potential. One has to spend a large duration of one's life span to undo the negative karma accrued further to acts involving the above.

We can learn from the unfortunate examples of two men who were known for greatness in their respective fields but whose lustful ways brought destruction at all fronts:

I. A former president of the United States of America who was known for his political acumen, statesmanship, affability and charm finally got pushed to stooping down to the level of cheating on his wife, family and entire country due to a life of promiscuity. The lies that were resorted to hide his adulterous life were publicly telecast on international television causing him great dishonor, insult and injury. His success, name, fame and reputation to the level of presidency that was earned through decades of hard work, effort and patience were eroded due to an adulterous life carried out for momentary pleasure. And today, people remember him more for his scandalous affair with a white house intern of little worth and less for a glorious eight year long presidency of the USA. Such shame and misfortune, thanks to straying from the path of virtue.

II. An international golfing legend known for his rare talent, ability and prowess in the filed of golf lost all further to a series of affairs and illicit encounters with women. All the name, fame, wealth and recognition he had earned by decades of striving for excellence through rigorous practice went down the drain for momentary pleasure. At the end of it, he even lost the trust of his wife and family and tarnished his image and reputation with a serious blot of infamy in his admirable biography. Overnight, he got transferred from being one of the country’s ‘Mot admired athletes’ to ‘Top 5 most hated sports athletes’. Today, people talk more about his series of affairs with unknown women than his splendid achievements on the golf course.

These are only two examples. We can retrieve thousands more if we delve into the depths of history. But two should do to remind us to stay away from the path of sex outside marriage, recreational sex and its aftermaths.

A life of celibacy in thought, word and deed means one should prevent any and all of the eight breaks in celibacy. Interacting with women personally or on the internet, phone or through social networking sites with a vested interest will always lead one to slip lower and lower and finally fall. It takes a few months of absolute celibacy to make man start realizing what he was missing out on and how devoid of substance his former objective was. Absolute shunning of anything and everything which leads to the eight breaks of Brahmacharya is to be carried out if one wishes to take life beyond sorrow.

At a personal level and on a well wishing note, I will suggest you a single formula to make life glorious:-

“Stay away from all forms of interactions fueled by desire towards the opposite sex; for all these actions however subtle and harmless, give birth to lust and lead one to the next stage of slippage, fall and ultimately destruction. View members of the opposite sex through a sisterly or motherly perspective and keep interactions to the minimum".

This might sound Herculean to many; but then the achievement of anything great comes further to great effort and great sacrifices and the end result would be very, very cherishable and on a permanent scale.

God bless and have a nice day :-)
Dhananjay