teenage incest

QUESTION: "hi. i m 25 yr old male. i m a very good ,honest, religious person with an excellent reputation everywhere in society. an year ago i left my girl friend because she was not loyal towards me. i felt guilt despite knowing about her reality which was extremely bad, ., she was an infidel n cheating on me. but then in guilt i remembered of time when i was 16 yrs old. i saaw porn by accident and masturbated which became a habit for me. i became curious and i touched my mom and elder sister at their private parts in curiosity when they were sleeping. i felt guilt n said sorry to god and forgot everything completely.i never repeated that thing in my life and i never felt to repeat that despite i sleep with my sisters.now i compare myself with my girlfriend and feel exterme guilts of soiling my blood relations. i have ruined my life thinkinh it for past 1 year. i m totally unhappy . i feel i m worst in this world. i cry a lot when alone but i manage to behave absolutely normal in open. noone has idea whats going on in my depressed mind. i m unable to study. i have lost all my confidence. i m in pain. extreme pain.
i have always remained a shy guy. introvert kind. i have 4 sisters and a lone son in my family. parents always loved me and protected me a lot. i was brilliant at studies and work but in past 1 year this guilt has taken away anything. please help me. i feel so bad theat i cant discuss this shameful aspect of my life wth a psychatrist. i m in pain please help me. when i was 11 yrs old during summers my mom used to sleep topless with me. i used to get erection in curiosity. i used to hug her in curiosity of feeling her breast. i m such a bad person.. i have seen that sexual discussion was a taboo at my home. i was introvert. whatever obscene i saw on tv i kept thinking in mind only. i could not discuss it with anybody. m i such a bad person? i m loosing my life. i was so happy an year ago n now i think of suicide. please advise me in detail why did this happen to me despite being sucha religious and kind preson. why? please reply as soon as possible to help me out. do such things happen to all during teenage or i m worst? i feel that i m a very bad person who killed every relation. rightnow or in that age also i was never attracted sexually towards my siblings and mom"

ANSWER: Hello Supriya :-)

It is always best to talk things out, so the pressure leaves us and a solution could be worked out. Let me rephrase your queries and try to throw light on the subject:

Q: Is it normal for a person to feel and proceed with ‘attraction’ he might feel towards his siblings/ parents?

A: The concept of sexuality one feels for fellow humans of the opposite sex is itself a product of delusion. It is a result of ignorance at the innate level. Man in reality is the pure soul. The soul by itself is beyond sexuality. It has no gender/ age/ form or want. It is imperishable, everlastingly permanent, inviolable and in a state content in itself. Soul in a man or a woman is just ‘soul’, it is the body which has a male or female form. On physical death, it again becomes just the ‘soul’ without any bodily identification.

However for the purpose of creation, the great Lord has made it necessary for man and woman to exchange their reproductive elements and produce offspring. This is the primal purpose of the sexual act. Any extension of this act beyond the above said purpose leads man to associate sensual pleasure with this act heavily. He begins to look up to this act as a form of recreation and relaxation. Further to many lives in this mode of thought and action, he begins to look at any member of the opposite sex not as a manifestation of the ‘soul’ but as an ‘object’ of sex and so called sexual pleasure. Age, relationship and sometimes even gender (as in case of homosexuals) become immaterial to him. He starts to look at every living being only through sexually tinted sight. The other person is no longer a ‘person’ but only an object of sex. In order to achieve sexual satisfaction from these ‘objects’ he lies to them claiming true love, manipulates, cheats and uses cunning.

At the start of adolescence, sexual tendencies of previous lives slowly start to manifest. A strong curiosity and liking for the concept of sex begins to raise its hood. These are the result of former indulgences stored in the ‘causal’ body or the ‘karana sharira’, the depository of all our tendencies and karma. At this point of time, if the sex impulse carried over from previous births is very strong, the child might get propelled into unnatural acts of intimacy with siblings or parents without its own knowledge. Before it knows what is happening, it has stepped into ‘forbidden’ ground. Under such circumstances, it forms the duty of the parents to correct, guide and show the right path to the child.

The act of your parent sleeping semi clothed with you (whatever the purpose might me) during childhood is unfortunate. The first duty of a parent is to ensure that the surroundings and atmosphere the child grows in do not induce in it a tendency toward wrong doing or thinking. While your mother’s action might not have been intentional, its result upon you has had a negative effect in the form of stirring up of sensual feelings and finally guilt.

Great sages and saints across the world advocate only one thing. To consider all fellow beings as mothers, sisters or brothers in effect. There is no other relationship in reality. Once a child is born to a man from one's wife, the man is advised to lead a life of celibacy looking at his wife as the 'Divine mother'. These masters were not fools to advocate such a outlook. They did it so man could transcend the concept of the 'sex delusion' and get in touch with the real bliss; 'soul bliss'.

As the saying goes, past is history. We are totally powerless to alter actions once committed. It is the present  which is in our hands. With pure thinking, virtuous living, non-violence and love/ peace toward the world at large, man can raise himself out of the deepest wells of sin.

Consider what has happened in your life as a bad dream and work towards forgetting it. Avoid and stop the recall of negative thoughts from your past in any form, for this amounts to re-living them. Positive and constructive thoughts make us confident and cheerful. We are all human and we all err knowingly or unknowingly. The concept of suicide is that which is entertained by those who lack the will and determination to face life. I’m sure you aren’t one among them. Human life is a very precious mode of existence attained by the soul further to innumerable animal births without intellect, discrimination and awareness. God feels happy and showers his blessings upon souls who strive towards virtue and perfection. No sin can tie man to delusion once he has realized his mistake and wants to sincerely become good.

Focus you energies towards work, exercise and doing good to people if possible. Develop a stance of love, peace and well wishing towards people in general. With positive efforts and prayer to god to redeem you from all sins, progress is cent percent assured :-)

Trust this helps, revert for clarifications if any
God bless and have a nice day :-)
Dhananjay

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QUESTION: thanks a lot for ur help. i m ok now. just one ques... what happenend to me during adolescence, is that normal? does this happen to others also? did this happen to u? please dont mind. i know i did that mistake for max 1 minute and never even thought about it again. i have already dedicated my life to humanity few yrs back, that too not because of guilt of incest but automatically my mind became like that. this guilt has arisen an year back only n now affecting my strengths and efficiency to live for living beings. please reply to it.. thanks a lot sir