Love & Brahmacharya
Question
Hi Dhananjay,
Yes! I am going through guilt trip, a severe one, not that I gave in to lust or sexual pleasure, but I gave in to emotion, severe emotional blindness, which completely obliterated the reality. I fell for a girl, all emotionally, I controlled the sexual feelings, never have been physical but extremely emotional about her. At times when she responded I used to feel elated yet whenever she snubbed I lost faith in myself. This rollercoaster ride has happened so many times.
Is loving a girl, not for sexual gratification but to make her a part of my life and live a "happy married life" a "sin" as per the principles of Brahmacharya? Should I never fall in love or expect to fall in love? Does love always have to be with sexual undertones?
Regards
Answer
1. Any relationship with the opposite sex (as man/woman), outside the precincts of marriage ends in sorrow. Hence interaction with the opposite sex should be kept free from emotion to the best possible extent and limited to necessity.
2. Love for a woman when let to grow with the intention of marriage (carried out at the earliest and not delayed) reduces the chances of suffering. The longer the delay, the more are the chances of breakup ending in sorrow. The purpose of cupid between man and woman is marriage that leads to offspring & a family. The longer this objective is delayed, the higher the chances of suffering
ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)