Abstinence & Behavioral Changes

Respected Dhananjay,

As per your guidance through various of your previous posts and answers to my queries I have been trying very hard to follow abstinence yet I observed few behavioral changes and finally slipped to relieve extreme sexual anxiety.

1.In the first fifteen days the sexual urge which developed was controllable and I could contain it, then after a week, the urge resurfaced and there was a sort of anxiety and restlessness which developed in my behaviour. I tried chanting God's names yet after few hours the sexual urge re-emerged with a greater intensity. I continued to subdue it and noticed an increase in frustration and aggressive behavioral aspect in me, leading to short-temper, ego, attention-span deficit etc. Finally while I was sleeping at night, I was woken up by the same urge and after a total of 22-23 days I slipped into self-inflicted sexual relief. It did cause an extreme calming effect, but it turned the guilt pangs on. Is it so tough to control or I am feeding acceptance to a weak mind and will power?

2. It's so tough Dhananjay, also I subconsciously started viewing few women who had shown interest towards me with lust. I viewed them in that manner for few seconds without deliberate conscious in the weeks of control of urge and then quickly changed my vision.  Yet that fraction of a second of deviation had caused all the harm to the overall mindframe, it was like the pictures got etched in mind and only after relieving myself of the pent-up sexual urge I could erase those pictures.

Kindly suggest suitably the cause and the action steps.

Thanks and Regards