Brahmacharya before and after marriage
Question
jai shri krishna, sir ,I am 19yrs. Old and never had sex but i masturbated a lot. Now i am trying my best to be a brahmchari. But sometimes there is feeling that i never had sex and i should try it atleast once before choosing the path of lifetime brahmcharya. And there is also another question what is the difference between a brahmcharya before marriage and brahmcharya after marriage. And is medha nadi destroyed or somewhat if i someone marries after 12 yrs. Of brahmchary. Plz. Help sir i am in comlete confusion.
Answer
1. When sexual relations are limited to ones lawful wife for the sake of progeny (children) only, it is Brahmacharya in marriage. Any other form of sexual contact outside the precints of marriage/ or before marriage will end in sorrow and unwanted karma. Hence one should not indulge in sexual activity of any kind with any woman other than ones lawful wife and that too for progeny.
When Brahmacharya is practiced in thought, word and deed with all women, taking them as mothers or sisters before marriage, it is Brahmacharya before marriage.
2. Yogi-s generally donot opt for children after the completion of such 12 year practice as they would have finished their fathering objectives before the start, early in marriage. However, Medha Nâdi cannot get affected through procreational sexual activity with ones lawful wife even after 12 years of unbroken Brahmacharya
ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)