Damage Done
Question
I have been chaste one month and 3 days then had a wet
dream, I hate it sooo much. I cannot believe that I am still
dirty, I have abstained and guarded myself every day, I find
women to be SUPER attractive when it is that I do look at
them. I try to avoid looking unless I like her personality
and consider her as a friend and a life mate. But I do not
feel too weak it's been since last night and I already feel
myself strong and confident again. Could this discharge be
from my past lustful thoughts that is coming out now, even
though I have been good all month?
I long to be chaste in word deed and act, with my eyes mind
and body until I get married and then only to have babies.
Thank you for taking time out of your day to help us reach
pure chastity!
Carr
Answer
Hello Carr :-)
How are you doing? Keep the efforts at maintaining celibacy going. Coming to the matter on hand,
A celibate aiming at achieving genuine growth should abstain all contact from members of the opposite sex during the initial years of celibacy, till his mind no longer responds to stimulus as it used to. The slightest tendency of the mind to revert to old ways is an indication that he is not yet ready to be oblivious to such contact. Our causal bodies are storehouses of past delusive actions associated with the opposite sex, relating them as sources of pleasure. A few months of celibacy cannot undo these strong tendencies present within that are of large magnitudes.
The sexual sensation lies latent and dormant even in very advanced celibates until one reaches the state of self-realization. Abstinence and withdrawal from the senses at most only make these tendencies dormant and weaker. But the seeds of sexuality are still present in their full might deep within. If conditions favorable to their development are allowed, they will germinate into plants of desire and passion. It is for this reason that a celibate who wishes to totally redeem himself from the effect of lust is advised to lead a spotless life of chastity in thought, word and deed for a period of 12 years, whereupon he realizes his self and gets the vision of god. After reaching this state, there is no gear of fall, for he has roasted these seeds of sexuality and they have lost the power to raise their heads. Any break resets the clock back to zero and he has to start all over again.
Wet dreams are an indication that we have to strive harder and keep ourselves moire focussed on the objective. They are most often a sign of lack of consistent efforts.
Keep the dangerous tendencies in check, be ever vigilant and never let sexual thoughts grow. Curb and nip them at the bud by diverting the mind into other domains. The desire to look at a beautiful woman stirs nothing else but sexual feelings eventually, for the apparent physical beauty is in itself a delusion. Keep this tendency in check. With honest efforts, right lifestyle and prayer to god, success eventually comes.
Wishing you all the best towards success,
God bless and have a nice day :-)
Dhananjay