Non-ejaculatory relationships in marriage/other experts

1. Non-ejaculatory sexual relations (not ejaculating during the sexual act through breath control [kumbhaka] helps one overcome slavery to the act of ejaculation to some extent). It can be practiced during the first few months of Brahmacharya in case of married people who find it unable to give up sexual contact all of a sudden.

However, even such contact has to be gradually tapered and complete abstinence from all forms of sexual contact through mind & body have to be eventually mastered if Brahmacharya is to lead to its true objective namely perfect health of the body and mind and finally self-realization.

The purpose of the sexual act is procreation and not recreation. Any recreational sexual activity will eventually end in sorrow. It creates bondage and densifies the past sexual samskara-s. Loss of Prana (though lesser than ejaculatory sex) still occurs and desire remains strong. As long as recreational sex (even without ejaculation) is not overcome, one cannot become an Urdhvareta as the production of semen does not stop. Only when all forms of physical and mental enjoyments in the sex plane are given up and a life of Yoga adhered to with regular meditation does one become an Urdhvareta after many years of unbroken practice.

True bliss, perfect health, strength and liberation are possible through complete Brahmacharya alone and not otherwise. Words cannot describe the joy, freedom and strength that the true Brahmachari experiences. Hence one should gradually taper even a non-ejaculatory relationship within marriage and take up cent percent Brahmacharya of the mind and body. This alone is real Brahmacharya.

2. All Jiva-s will eventually realize what is true and untrue. It is the purpose of the human birth, to gain knowledge regarding ‘Sat’ (the absolute truth) by overcoming belief in ‘Asat’ (falsity born of Maya). This process applies to every being, right from a little ant to the human. It does not matter whether one want’s this or doesn’t, whether one accepts this or does not. And so it follows that nothing needs to be proven. At the right time, after much personal experience, every Jiva will realize what is right and what is wrong. This is the grand plan of the Almighty. All this is HIS Leela (play). Then, things get proven automatically. Fortunate are those who learn from the mistakes of others and apply wisdom. To all others, there is always the classroom called life which has its own unique way of correcting and educating its students through the harsh lessons called experience.

ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)